Who we are and who the service is for
Not Someday LLC ("Not Someday," "we," "us," or "our") operates joinnotsomeday.com and the Not Someday member service. The service is intended only for people age 18 or older.
Information we collect
Applications may include your name, email address, 18+ attestation, city or region, goals, working preferences, relationship intentions, and written responses. If approved, members create an authenticated account and may add profile details, pursuits, connection preferences, optional profile photos and short updates, collaboration interests, optional links, time zone, meeting preference, Circle interest and availability, introduction availability, Circles, commitments, reactions, connections, and direct messages. Members may also nominate someone using an email address and optional private note, and privately record how a connection went.
We also receive information when you use safety or support features, including reports, block-related records, moderation records, account requests, and communications with us. Our infrastructure and security providers may receive technical information such as IP address, browser or device information, authentication events, request metadata, and abuse signals needed to operate and protect the service.
If you choose text notifications, we store your verified phone number, verification status, text preferences, and consent or opt-out timestamps. Our messaging provider receives the number and the generic notification text to verify your phone and send the notices you selected. We do not include direct-message content in texts.
If you purchase a membership, we receive billing-related information needed to administer access, such as your Stripe customer and subscription identifiers, selected plan, subscription status, paid-through period, cancellation state, and limited transaction or payment-status metadata. Stripe processes payment-card details through its payment interfaces. Not Someday does not receive or store your full card number or card security code.
Not Someday asks for city/region-level location only, not precise coordinates. We do not intentionally ask members for Social Security numbers, government identification numbers, biometric identifiers, or precise geolocation as part of the current service.
We use Google Analytics 4 to understand aggregate site usage, such as page routes, referral sources, browser or device categories, and approximate region. We do not send application answers, message bodies, report context, or other sensitive free text to analytics.
How we use information
We use information to review applications, establish and administer membership, provide discovery and connection features, operate Circles and commitments, deliver direct messaging, administer paid membership and billing status, respond to support requests, prevent abuse, investigate reports, enforce our rules, secure the service, and comply with legal obligations.
Private connection check-ins are visible only to the member who recorded them, and nomination notes are available to the nominating member and administrators. Optional profile photos, collaboration details, and short updates are visible to eligible members. Optional links are shared only with accepted connections. Circle interest and scheduling availability are available to the team for placement planning, not displayed in the member directory. Some matching inputs are private and are not displayed in the member directory. There is no public discipline score, ranking, follower count, or public activity leaderboard.
How information is visible and shared
Approved members see only the profile, pursuit, Circle, connection, and message information made available through the product's visibility rules. Direct messages are available to the conversation participants while the conversation remains viewable under the service's safety rules. Blocks are private and create a two-way visibility boundary.
Reports are private. A reported member cannot inspect a report. For a message report, administrators may review the specific message submitted as evidence rather than browse a member's direct-message history generally. Administrators may also review applications, reports, and operational account status as needed to administer and protect the community.
Service providers
We use service providers for hosting and deployment, authentication and database infrastructure, payment processing, abuse prevention, and email delivery. Current providers include Supabase, Vercel, Stripe, Cloudflare Turnstile, Google Analytics, and our configured email-delivery provider. If you opt into texts, Twilio also processes phone verification and text delivery. Those providers may process information as necessary to provide their services to us.
No sale of personal information or behavioral advertising
Not Someday does not sell personal information. The current service does not use personal information for cross-context behavioral advertising or operate a data-broker business.
Retention and account closure
We retain information for as long as reasonably necessary to provide the service, protect members, prevent fraud or abuse, resolve disputes, enforce our agreements, and meet legal obligations. We do not keep personal information merely because it might be useful someday.
Self-service account closure immediately ends product access and active member relationships and cancels recurring membership billing. Historical messages, commitments, safety reports, moderation records, and audit records, billing records, and transaction-related records may remain where reasonably necessary for safety, accounting, fraud prevention, tax, legal, or dispute purposes. We delete or anonymize personal information when it is no longer reasonably needed, subject to technical, legal, security, accounting, and backup limitations.
A verified member may request permanent deletion from their profile. The request closes access and recurring billing first. We review shared conversations, safety records, storage, disputes, and applicable retention obligations before removing eligible account and application data. For an account with shared history, a reviewed deletion removes the sign-in and identifying profile details while a minimal profile labeled "Deleted member" remains to keep shared conversations, Circle and commitment history, and safety reports intact. Text previously shared in those records may remain available under the service's visibility and safety rules. A documented preservation hold is reviewed again within 90 days; we do not erase another member's history to complete a request. Provider accounting records and backups may remain under their own retention schedules. After an eligible account is deleted, a new application is required to rejoin. An explicit safety ban may retain the minimum email identifier needed to prevent reentry and is reviewed at least annually.
Your choices and privacy rights
Members can remove a profile photo, pause new introductions, pause discovery or account activity, set member email and optional text preferences, remove a verified phone number, reply STOP to text notifications, stop subscription renewal, control profile and pursuit visibility, manage blocks, download a JSON account export, close member access, and request permanent deletion. Pausing account activity does not pause subscription billing. A self-service export includes account information currently available to you. Information hidden by an active safety boundary may be excluded so the export does not reveal another person's block or otherwise defeat the service's privacy controls.
Depending on where you live, applicable law may give you rights to request access, correction, deletion, or a copy of personal information, or to object to or appeal certain processing decisions. To make a privacy request, contact support@joinnotsomeday.com. We may need to verify your identity before completing a request. If your account is suspended, revoked, or otherwise restricted, use the same contact so we can handle the request through an identity-verified support process.
Security
We use technical and organizational safeguards designed for the service, including authenticated access, database access controls, rate limits, abuse protections, and restricted administrative access. No internet service can guarantee absolute security, so members should use a unique password and avoid sharing sensitive information that is not needed for the community.
Age restriction
Not Someday is an 18+ service and is not intended for children. If we learn that an account belongs to someone under 18, we may restrict or remove the account and associated information as appropriate.
Changes to this Policy
We may update this Privacy Policy as the service changes or legal requirements evolve. When we make a material change, we will update the effective date and provide additional notice when appropriate.
Contact
For privacy, export, closure, security, or safety questions, contact support@joinnotsomeday.com.